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Finding the Right Relationship through Astrology

“I have Saturn in the 7th house,” moaned one of my clients. “I looked online and that means I’ll never get married.” A woman of 41, she’d been dating for years with no success.

“The 7th house is actually the house of friendship,” I said gently. “It’s where we establish rapport with another person. Saturn represents that type of person.”

“I don’t want a friend,” she wailed. “I want a husband!”

Leaning into my counseling table, I replied, “Just imagine this: how important is it for a 92-year-old to have sex 3 times a week? Probably not very. At that point in life, what matters is the connection, the friendship, the common values. A planet in the 7th house represents the kind of person we can optimally relate to. This is bedrock for deeper intimacy.”

“Saturn represents both fear and commitment. In the 7th house of one-on-one relationships, you might initially experience emotional lockdown. It’s scary to be vulnerable. Saturn instructs you to hang in there. To do 7th house negotiations with dignity. To have integrity. A healthy Saturn person is reliable, accountable, responsible and-this is funny, but true-someone who tends to be on time.”

Becca furrowed her brows. “But I don’t want to have sex with my friends. What about the One?”

“Look to the 8th house of the horoscope. It’s deep, intense, sexual, stripped down to basic truths-birth, sex, death, partnership. Intimacy requires courage. It’s not always easy or romantic. Sometimes we wake up in the morning and don’t much like the person next to us even if we love them. Even in the happiest of marriages, someone usually dies first-and so we’re alone again. Intimacy transforms us. It’s emotional alchemy.”

“I have Jupiter in the 8th,” Becca puzzled. “It’s supposed to be lucky. It sure hasn’t been lucky for me.”

“Wherever Jupiter lies is where we tend to underestimate ourselves. It’s the planet connected to faith. It’s expansive. Jupiter tells us to bet the house, go for broke. Say you meet a guy who’s bigger than life? Philosophical? Adventurous? Generous? That’s Jupiter in the 8th. There’s also the dark side of Jupiter-if you can’t believe that someone of a positive Jupiterian nature is out there, you might find yourself instead in a relationship with a pompous, overbearing, preachy type.”

Becca took the session to heart. Within 6 months, she realized that she was having deeper feelings for a man she’d been friends with for a dozen years. Drew had seen her through dating and relationship crises, had held her hand, stood by her side, made her laugh. They’d even traveled together internationally-expanding their horizons (a Jupiter theme).

No planet is good. No planet is bad. Each one has two sides. They’ll happily instruct you on how to reach your goals, whether personal or professional. Astrology shows you not only who your people are or who your person is…it also whispers into your heart where you might meet your significant other…and when.

I’m happy to share with you the qualities of your mate and the most auspicious timing to find them. Love is glorious, and, truly, it’s there in abundance.

 

April/May 2010 Astrological News

Here’s April/May astrological news, just part of what you’ll find in my monthly newsletter. To subscribe, tweet, FB or email me with your contact info at joyce@partnersinhealing.com and you’ll get the next one due out mid-May.  Enjoy!

“For everything, there is a season…” I sit here gazing out at my garden, ocean winds untangling poplar tree leaves. The poplar itself, which itself stands a story above my 2-story Victorian, doesn’t mind: the winds shake debris from the branches and lightens its leaves, which chatter like castanets.

The winds of change persist in our lives, sometimes in gusts of fear, at other times in whispers of faith. Brace against them and your branches might fracture. Move with them and you learn to bend, flex and release. Trust the strength of your roots to hold you steady. As Ram Dass said, “Be here now.”

Following are tips to help you stay fluid and grounded:

Mercury, the planet of communication, is moving backwards (retrograding) from April 17-May 11. In slow-moving, practical Taurus, the key is to think cat: don’t hurry, enjoy simple pleasures, relax. It’s best to not begin (or buy anything electronic or sign contracts) during this time, so chill out. Get into your garden. Get a massage. Go for a hike. Really taste each mouthful of food. For more details on Mercury retrograde, check out this link http://joycevanhorn.wordpress.com/2009/12/12/mercury-retrograde-whats-to-love/

Disciplinary Saturn did an about face (retrograded) for the last time into analytic Virgo on April 7th. Avoid emotional and professional potholes by lending a critical eye to what you implemented before this period. You’ll be better able to catch and clean up discrepancies you may not have otherwise noticed. On May 30, Saturn goes direct. If you’ve done your homework (which Saturn will always reward), you’ll have worked the kinks out of projects and goals so that they can manifest smoothly and successfully.

On April 19th, the Sun lazes into earthy, sensual Taurus until May 20th. This, too, is a cycle that smiles lazily and says, “Give yourself a break.” Eat a peach so ripe with juice that it spills down your chin. Roll down a green, grassy hill and don’t worry about grass stains. You have a body–enjoy it!

Rule-abiding Saturn and rule-breaking Uranus lock horns for the last time beginning April 26th. This can result in power struggles, both with other people and within yourself. Stop and ask yourself what you’re fighting for. Is it really so important? Is a victory necessary? Compromise is optimum, but it won’t always work-you may have to simply walk away. Not all battles need to be won. Remain objective and you’ll come away with a clearer awareness of what power truly means for you. For more details, go to http://joycevanhorn.wordpress.com/2009/08/31/freedom-rules-uranus-vs-saturn

Let the winds of change clear out what’s extraneous, whether gale-force winds or soft breezes. Trust that their currents are guiding you to exactly where is best for you. Go make interesting mistakes-and don’t apologize for them. You are part of nature…and you’re a force of it as well. Never lose faith. There’s always another adventure on the horizon.

Love and laughter,

Joyce


The Second Saturn Return: Passage to Wisdom

Everyone who lives to be 57 or thereabouts goes through their second Saturn return. This means that they have reached a point in their life journey where they are entering the earliest stages of “old age” or elderhood. Like the first Saturn return, it is once again a cycle of maturation involving significant life passages. People retire, they become grandparents, their own, aging parents may die, they may move, values changes, bodies change. This is hardly the end of the road, however. It’s actually just another beginning.

Saturn wants these folk to climb their own mountain, too–only it’s a far different one than the one of the first Saturn return. There is a gravity to their efforts, and a sense of less time ahead than before them. Therefore, an urgency often arises to pass on what they know. Many people who volunteer, for example, are older. It may, in part, be as a result of extra time due to retirement, but that’s only part of it. They want to give back.

Older doesn’t mean wiser, of course, but it does mean that someone of 60 has had more life experience than someone of 30. All of us have had the misfortune to have to sit and endure an older person pontificating about “the good old days.” How boring is that? We don’t learn, or want to learn, from such lecturing. Those are the individuals who fail the second Saturn return, to be left alone in Saturnian loneliness and solitude, cut off from the kind of meaningful connection that can occur between youth and elders.

The Cool Old Man or Woman, who traverses this critical life cycle elegantly and consciously, shares examples of his or her life. In that way, younger people want to hear what they have to say, because they’re not being judged and the stories close the gap between the generations. Think of Dustin Hoffman–he’s funny, wise, enjoying the hell out of life and is eminently human.  He still acts, but his main focus is on his family and truly taking time to do what he enjoys. He doesn’t care what other people think. He’s one cool dude.

The second Saturn return, done correctly, allows the person to chill and mellow. To notice what’s important now, not in the doing, but in the giving. In the sharing. In the reflecting. Life tends to become less serious and sweeter. If someone tries to ignore this passage, they may face end-of-life fears which could manifest concretely as lack, restriction and  loss of faith.

I approach my second Saturn return this year. I look to it with curiosity, openness and respect. I have a sense of what it will bring, but I choose to make the most of it. Meanwhile, I surround myself with people younger than I am, who remind me not to get rigid, to go with the flow, to be curious, open and celebratory.